A Friend
what is a Friend?
a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations. That’s the google definition…probably not mine as I have broken the definition a few times!
This week has been a timely reminder of how much friends mean…
10 years ago I lost someone who meant more to me than I cared to realise. Being stuck in the moment, and not realising what you had when you have it. A sudden diagnosis of cancer changed so many lives for ever. From initial discovery until his death was 6 days!! Far too short to comprehend or plan? Get your head around the situation…can you?
You try to cope but your body shudders under the weight, and your brain shuts down. Everything stops and it becomes routine until you rediscover the new norm.
When a friend calls to ask where you are ? Why aren’t you here? What are you doing? the call to action grows with each passing moment. Stop everything, take the time to spend a moment with friends. Even for a few quiets or just being in the room for some people, I know this is true for me.
I have fond memories of sitting in the presence of friends saying nothing listening to music, staring at a tv or walls covered in band posters just being lost in a time slip. It cements long term friendships, if you can sit and say nothing. Its stirs feelings deep in my soul remembering those times.
I recently developed a web page for myself, scottkesseler.com. To imbue my thoughts and life story and have a place to immortalise what I accomplished and leave something behind for those that cared.
I want to have a section with friends publishing a brief comment on who I am. It seemed self indulgent, self promotional or maybe it was for self affirmation? Deep down I don’t want to wait to find out what people think. I don’t care about some peoples thoughts but my friends and those closest to me ... I care deeply!
During this internal discussion, I was reflecting about life and death. Why wait until some body dies before we speak their truth. I want to break the mold and reciprocate the sentiment and feeling.
How do we feel about each other…like truely?
Your friends already like you for who you are. Would they care if you told them they are the best friend? The best looking? The best lover?
Or do they have their head in the sand like and Ostrich? Is it unspoken and more of a feeling? does it need words…or is it moment in time.
On reflection spend time with those you treasure, reach out frequently tell those that you treasure that they have meaning. Check in , make sure they are ok too. At times like these Friends matter! They are always there even after years of neglect, those close friends will always be true.
I miss you bro
